Check the Vibe is here to help you handle big emotions – without the drama.
Relationships, rejection, and navigating feelings can be confusing. And in a world full of bad advice and toxic takes, it’s easy to get caught up in unhealthy habits. Check the vibe is about giving you the advice you need to manage your emotions and make positive choices, so small moments don’t spiral into bigger problems.
We’re not here to lecture or call you out for bad behaviour – we’re here to help you stop it before it starts. By recognising what sets you off, how you can stay in control and avoid situations that could lead to regret.
Been knocked back?
You put yourself out there and it didn’t work out. It’s okay. We all feel hurt when things don’t go the way we’d hoped. Feel your emotions but don’t become them, and when it all builds up, follow these simple steps.
Pause.
Sit with it for a sec.
Before you react, take a deep breath and give yourself a minute. It’s easy to let emotions take over in the heat of the moment, but acting on impulse can make things worse. A quick pause helps you avoid saying or doing something you might regret. Give yourself space to process before reacting.
Angry? Embarrassed?
Hurt? Name it.
Instead of pushing your feelings down or lashing out, try to figure out exactly what you’re feeling. Admitting “I feel rejected” or “I’m disappointed” (even to yourself) helps you process emotions in a way that stops them from bubbling over into blame or frustration.
Feel it – but don’t let it
control you.
It’s good to feel your feelings – and rejection is rough. But your emotions don’t control you. You get to choose how you handle them, and responding with calmness and confidence will always turn out better than reacting out of frustration.
Rethink it.
Getting knocked back happens to everyone. It’s not a reflection of you as a person; it just means that this wasn’t the right connection. It doesn’t mean no one will ever be interested in you. Try and see it another way – it’s just part of life, never a sign that you’re not good enough.
Move on
Accept it but don’t overthink it. Instead of spiralling, focus on what makes you feel good. Hanging out with mates, exercising, or even just playing music can help reset your mindset. The sooner you focus on what’s next, the sooner it will stop feeling like such a big deal.
What to do if…
You’ve been knocked back
Being rejected really hurts…
but turning that hurt into blame won’t make it better. It’s not about “leading you on” or “wasting your time” – sometimes, feelings just aren’t mutual, and that’s okay. We’re more comfortable feeling angry than we are feeling disappointed, or sad. The best move? Accept it, respect it, and move forward.
had a bad break up and still not over it
It’s normal to feel sad after a breakup…
so don’t be hard on yourself. Getting over something you cared about takes time, so be patient and give yourself space to feel your feelings. Try not to blame yourself or your ex—breakups happen for lots of reasons. Focus on yourself. Over time, feelings will fade, and you’ll move on.
they say no
If your partner says ‘no’ – respect it…
and never pressure them or make them feel guilty. People’s boundaries can change, so it’s okay if someone isn’t ready for something. It’s normal to feel disappointed, but remember, it’s not a personal rejection. Take your time and don’t rush—make sure you’re both ready before doing anything.
they’re asking for your passwords
Everyone has a right to privacy…
Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to share private information. Your partner should trust you and not try to watch and control what you do online or on your phone. Talking about how you both feel each day can help you both feel more comfortable.
been asked for nudes?
Pushing someone to send nudes isn’t flirting…
it’s disrespectful. If they have to ask more than once, or they’re trying to persuade you – then they’re crossing a line. And if you’re under 18, it’s actually illegal to send pictures.
you feel pressure to start sexting
Sexting isn’t the way to show you care…
Sexting isn’t something you have to do in a relationship or to show someone you really like them. If you feel uncomfortable and you don’t want to, then saying no should be enough for someone to stop asking if they respect you.
Advice on handling the situations you haven’t got figured out.
Why do I feel so angry when I get rejected?
When you get rejected—like not getting picked for a team, not being invited to something, or someone saying “no” to you—it can make you feel really angry. That’s because rejection feels personal and hurts. Anger happens because your brain is trying to protect you from feeling hurt or sad. It can feel unfair, and your body might get tense, hot, or frustrated. But here’s the thing: while feeling angry is normal, acting on it in a hurtful way (like yelling or getting aggressive) doesn’t help.
Why aren’t they replying to my messages?
If someone you care about is leaving you on read or ghosting you, it can be really hurtful, but remember, it’s not your fault. People have different reasons for not responding, and sometimes it has nothing to do with you. It’s important to give them space and not take it personally. Try not to keep worrying about why they’re not replying—focus on other things that make you happy, like your hobbies, friends, or family.
If you feel like it’s bothering you too much, you could try talking to them calmly about how you feel, but don’t pressure them.
How do I say no without hurting someone’s feelings?
Be clear. You have to tell them. Ghosting them or being overly vague can leave people feeling confused. No one likes second guessing.
Be kind. You don’t need to get into what puts you off or why you’ve lost feelings. Just ‘cause they’re not right for you doesn’t mean you get to be rude.
Be real. Don’t let them try and persuade you, and don’t leave them thinking this might not be over. It’s not fair to let them think there might be a chance it’ll work out.
How do I know if someone is respecting my boundaries?
A boundary is a line you draw in your mind and if someone crosses it, it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Some people do not like to be hugged and that is their boundary. Everyone is different, what some people are comfortable with, other people would struggle with. It is important to think about how you feel in different situations and make boundaries that help you feel safe and comfortable.
What do I do if my ex shares images without my consent?
Revenge Porn is when someone shares private pictures or videos of another person, usually without their permission. That person is usually trying to embarrass or hurt you. It’s never okay to share pictures of someone else without their consent. If this happens, it’s important to speak to someone you trust who can support you.
What should I do if they’re getting personal after I’ve said no?
First remember it’s their problem and not yours, people who name call do it because they aren’t that confident and feel insecure themselves. It’s not always easy but choosing to hear what they say as – just words – can help you not to take them too personally. If it’s really bothering you, find someone you trust and talk about it.
Need support?
You’re not alone.
If you need someone to talk to or support with anything covered in this campaign, help is available. Reach out to a trusted friend, teacher, or family member, or contact one of the organisations below for confidential advice and guidance. No matter what you’re going through, you deserve support. Don’t hesitate to check in and reach out.
Leicester Sexual Health
Sexual health advice, contraception and support.
Visit Leicester Sexual Health
Shorespace
Advice and support for young people managing emotions and living safely online and offline.
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Victim Support
Support for people of all ages who have been a victim of a crime, including sexual violence
Visit Victim Support